If you’ve been a bride before chances are you know exactly what we’re talking about. Here are a few tips to help you be the best wedding guest possible:

1. Never go up to a bride and say “Hey we’re leaving.”

We know you may have a small baby that needs you at home, so it’s totally understandable that you need to slip out early, but please for the love of all things holy don’t go up and tell the bride! Chances are, even though the bride or groom loves you dearly, they won’t notice when you leave. If you’ve been a bride or groom on a wedding day, you remember all too well what it was like to have so many people trying to speak to you at once. A bride on her wedding day is in many ways just like a celebrity, and is super busy being tossed around in the whirlwind of conversation with all of her guests. You also don’t want to make her worry that people aren’t staying for the rest of the reception, because saying “hey we’re leaving” isn’t exactly the most positive thing for a bride to hear. Taking time to give the bride and groom a hug and tell them it was beautiful is all they need to know.

2. “So and So did the same thing on her wedding day!”

Even though you may have seen something similar repeated during their wedding, you should never bring mention to it. Every bride wants to feel like all the love and attention she put into her wedding day are special and unique. Some things are just better left unsaid!

3. “So when are y’all having kids??”

Woah there! It’s a little soon to be asking that question don’t you think? Lets leave the family planning up to the bride and groom and let them savor in being newly married.

4. “How much is all of this costing you?”

Under no circumstances is it appropriate to ask a bride how much her budget was! Just kick back and enjoy the beautiful celebration without worrying about the costs.

5. “I was going to bring __________ but I didn’t get a plus one!”

Planning a wedding is stressful, and the absolute most stressful part is planning the guests list. Chances are, the bride would have loved to give you a plus one, but if the guests list was getting out of hand, it may have not been an option for her. Many people don’t realize that most of the people on guest lists are family members and people that each side of the family invited. Now is the time to just be thankful that you got to experience their wedding day and have a great time!

6. “Why isn’t ___________ a bridesmaid??”

Every bride takes careful consideration into who she asked to have the honor of standing beside her, it will more than likely sound insulting to question her choices.

7. “Why don’t you have an open bar?? A traditional cake, etc.”

Some couples want to do something a little different and mix things up a bit. It’d be better to say something like “It’s so awesome y’all chose to do donuts instead of a grooms cake!”

8. “Where are the favors?”

Most wedding favors are forgotten, and the bride may have chosen splurge on the menu so that her guests could enjoy a wonderful meal, and in doing so opted to leave out the favors.

9. “I saw that same thing on pinterest!”

Once again, every bride wants to feel like her wedding day is unique and special. If you see something repeated it’s best to not bring it up.

10. “What time is this over?”

You never want to make it seem like you are in a rush to leave! If you absolutely must know, find a family member or staff member that would know the details.